Long time posted, I accidentally looked at it. (perhaps the writer is this comment does no more visit this site. ) Anyhow, to post some 21 pictures about myself seems to me a bit like narcissism. But I might be wrong...
I would tend to totally agree with you!! That's what I thought the minute I saw all of the male profiles with no picture, or worse still, a picture that is so small when you click on it you can't see what they look like even when you strain your eyesight!
Cappella, I also agree.... no picture request them. If you don't post you are not worth my contact. I am new and was very disappointed that there are no pictures of these lookers. What is up with that Men>>>>>
I have 1 simple rule. No pic = no response.I simply don't trust "no photos". Don't care about looks. I'm not a princess don't expect man to be Prince Charming , but I do expect honesty starting with photo.
So very well said.. a recent photo is so important for all on these dating sites. I've encountered some males emailing me a photo that was taken 10-15 years ago.. then meeting in person and you wonder what happened here???LOL just wanted to add this comment!
I have tried many sites and biggest beef is the women who get photos from model sites and use them - many times they aren't women but rather are men from nigeria setting up a scam. Also many women use pics that obviously don't match their age. A picture helps to establish if there might be some chemistry, clothes style, hair style/color, use of cosmetics etc all help to create a woman's personality.
Jeeez Gartag...I violated 2 of your dictums...maybe more......What if I said women should skip the cleavage, or the the cats? Or the flowers? Or the professional airbrushed or defocused glamor shots? Or swimsuits?
Everything posted...pic or written....isn't "proving something".....It is part of painting a picture.....a best effort to describe oneself. It's all one can do online. Most men like machinery, and what's wrong with, "if you've got it flaunt it"...(think that's a woman's line, anyway), and I wish more would put on a swimsuit.....so maybe they will look too overweight to someone.....maybe I'm too scrawny for a lot of women....but it's ME, and a pic IS worth 1000 words
Leave the "inappropriate" judgement calls to the website, they get paid for it.
Just my opinion, but since this is online only; no-pics, no-start for me. Lot of people don't have many recent pics, but one can always scrape up something, or use the cell phone in the mirror, or the computer. A lot of men could even be married...(I know a couple guys I'd bet would do that).....no telling who is out there or what they are up to.
And as far as, "it's what's on the inside that really counts" goes....well, when honestly looking for a lifetime partner....anyone who truly believes that is some kind of Saint. (we haven't all given up on sex, have we?) So I'm no Saint, I look at the pics first, then read, and if that makes me shallow and undesireable, so be it.
Men, if you do decide to post a pic, please keep your upper body covered up, unless you're
trying to prove something, don't pose with another man, I can't figure out whose profile it is,
and stay away from pictures that show boats, cars, etc prominently displayed as if you're
showing me who your true love is...
have found that until you meet someone in person, you just can't tell what/if any chemistry there may be...some things only come through in person...
once i met a woman after a couple of phone conversations....she had no picture, but i didn't care...when i met her - she was absolutely beautiful....she said she didn't put a pic up because she didn't want to be judged by her looks...
we had a nice time, but her tastes were a little too rich for me...lol
I am new on this site also. I don't mind not seeing mens pictures but I do wonder why they do not even bother to fill out a profile. I would not waste my time with a man that cannot put at least some basic information out there.